Kunena Site Syndication http://www.dadlabs.com/ Wed, 19 Jun 2013 09:56:23 -0500 Kunena 1.5.12 http://www.dadlabs.com/components/com_kunena/template/dadlabs/images/english/emoticons/rss.gif http://www.dadlabs.com/ Kunena Site Syndication http://www.dadlabs.com/forum/Infant/Toddler-Dads/General/Trouble-Bonding-With-My-1-Year-Old.html#9990 Hi there! The good news is, I also have gone thought an experience of feeling disconnected with my child during the first 2 years of his life. The good part being don't feel alone in the world for feeling the way you do. Many of my fellow dad friends also experience the feeling of being the 3rd wheel. During the time I also felt a little lost and under appreciated or at times invisible. At first the mother child bond is absolutely intense. The chemicals still flowing through your wife and the babies instinct to stick to mum (the food source and primary care giver) is absolute. That takes a long time to feel like you are part of. With time the baby weens of the mum and the world opens up to them. don't let it get you down if you can. Show love as you get the chance. Short times or long times and the frequency will get more often. it takes a lot of time but don't try too hard.... My friends little girls by the time the are 3 and 4 love their daddy, their daddy becomes the favourite. Much to the disgust of their mums. My little boy now two and a half is very excited to see me and has lost interest in mummy a fair bit. The more they favour mum and only spend time with mum... In my experience only creates more interest in someone different to mum when they come of this age. So take a breath.... Sounds like you have a supportive wife who will also be keen for her own time soon to relax and re-find herself after being mum for so long and everyday. The future will be bright. Try to concentrate on renovations or other activities you can do to feel a sense of accomplishment. Know it's natural and be proud you are working hard for your family even if you are away. Best of luck, I hope this helps and I say this only from my knowledge. God knows I've been before... Just ask my wife ; ) Sun, 16 Jun 2013 14:39:37 -0500 http://www.dadlabs.com/forum/Welcome/Introduce-Yourself/Stay-at-home-dad.html#9988 Hi guys! I just registered today and want to introduce myself. I served in the Army for 4 years and met my wife there as well. I have 3 boys, 11, 10, and 7. Two years ago we made the decision that I would stay home and raise my boys. It has worked out very well for all of us. They're grades improved, (not that they were bad students before) they are happier and feel stable! That being said, I have given up my career and that scares the heck out of me. I do intend to return to work when I feel they would not suffer from it. I have always enjoyed music and occasionally write my own songs. I have written one about my kids and how they are growing too fast... I hope you guys check it out because it will show you my family and maybe some of you will learn it too!! I hope this is not looked at as spam, because I really do feel you all can relate and enjoy this song!! It is on youtube. Search original song by mike raye and give it a listen!! Maybe even tell me what you think! BTW, today is the first day of summer vacation and they are already bored :) Thu, 13 Jun 2013 16:40:12 -0500 http://www.dadlabs.com/forum/Lounge/General-Discussion/Help-with-sleepless-nights-for-breast-feeders.html#9984 Hello all, My first child is 12 days old and my partner and I have been ecstatic , but she is knackered now as our baby has decided she wants to feed more regularly now and it is happening every hour. I heard this is called cluster feeding-has anyone else had this? It I leading to a lot of sleepless nights! How have you been able to support your partner, because at the moment I feel helpless and she is shattered! Tue, 11 Jun 2013 22:54:52 -0500 http://www.dadlabs.com/forum/Lounge/Toys/Are-stuffed-toys-really-harmful-for-babies.html#9980 I want to know if it’s alright to give a stuffed toy to a baby who is about ten months old? I saw this adorable stuffed toy from a department store and it’s on sale! I want to give that stuffed toy to my niece but I my friend told me it’s dangerous because most of the time, stuffed toys cause death to babies. I don’t actually believe this but the information he presented seemed real so now I’m afraid if I should buy that stuffed toy for my niece or not. Is it really true that stuffed toys are harmful for babies? Fri, 07 Jun 2013 04:21:14 -0500 http://www.dadlabs.com/forum/Lounge/Toys/Educational-and-Fun-Toys-for-a-15-month-old.html#9979 Are you familiar with books that talk? I don’t know what they are called but they are great! I remember 15 years ago, I have seen those kinds of books. I’m not just sure if they still exist. :-)) Fri, 07 Jun 2013 02:34:41 -0500 http://www.dadlabs.com/forum/Lounge/Money/Great-Way-to-Save-for-College-Using-529-Plans.html#9978 Hello fellow dads, Just wanted to share with you a unique and convenient way to save for your child's college. I mentioned this as a reply to someone else's thread but I thought it was informative enough to deserve its own post. For those of you who do not know about 529 college savings plans, may I suggest you check out SavingforCollege.com (http://www.savingforcollege.com/), they have been around since 1999, they review and rate every 529 plan in the country. It is a good starting point to do some research before you choose a 529 plan. Even though I live in Florida I chose the Utah Educational Savings Plan (UESP) for my daughter, since Florida does not have State Income Tax, that particular benefit did not apply to me. I was able to choose whichever plan I thought would suit my family best. Also for those who do not know, your child can go to ANY College or University in the country, the State which your 529 Plan is sponsored by does not mean he or she has to go to that State school. Now here is the unique and convenient part, GradSave (http://gradsave.com/home), they are a college savings registry which transfers your gifts/contributions received from your child's GradSave profile to a 529 plan of your choice. It's a great way to get friends and family involved to contribute to your child's college fund. Since they only work with 529 plans, people will be confident that the funds will be used for college. Friends and relatives can gift by credit card or eCheck and set up monthly contributions as well. They do take a 5.9% fee on gifts made with a credit card and a 2.9% fee for e-check transactions but if you compare those fees to other crowd-funding sites, they are on the low-end. Also if you think about it, the gifts you received through GradSave may have been gifts you would not have received at all if you did not use them. So unless I plan to contribute a large amount to the 529 plan myself, then I would send a check directly to my 529 but if you want to get Grandma and Uncle Joe to contribute then basically the fees pay for the convenience to include others and easily gift to my daughter's 529. Anyways, I hope this helps, here is my Emma's GradSave Profile: http://gradsave.com/emmaspradel Feel free to send a gift! Ha! -Eddie Thu, 06 Jun 2013 19:57:34 -0500 http://www.dadlabs.com/forum/Lounge/General-Discussion/Any-baby-wearing-dads.html#9977 Hahaha! Well it's good to know that now! I will make sure to bring hats now on our vacations. Very nice pun concretin_nik! ------------------------- James Thu, 06 Jun 2013 19:49:01 -0500 http://www.dadlabs.com/forum/Lounge/Fertility/Becoming-dad-in-early-40s.html#9976 I agree as well. You have plenty of time to still conceive. I just had my seventh two years ago! No birth defects with any of them, I couldn't be happier! :) ------------------------ James Thu, 06 Jun 2013 19:45:45 -0500 http://www.dadlabs.com/forum/Welcome/Feedback-and-Suggestions/Dadlabs.com-SSL-Certificate-is-expired.html#9975 Ok, cool. Thu, 06 Jun 2013 19:10:54 -0500 http://www.dadlabs.com/forum/Lounge/Money/College-Savings-Plan-529.html#9972 I opened up a 529 plan, I chose the Utah Educational Savings Plan (UESP) for my daughter, even though I live in Florida. Since Florida does not have State Income Tax, that particular benefit did not apply to me so I was able to choose whichever plan I thought would suit my family best. You check out SavingforCollege.com (http://www.savingforcollege.com/) , they review and rate every 529 plan in the country. It is a good starting point to do some research before you choose a 529. Also, I would recommend to check out GradSave (http://gradsave.com/home), it is a savings registry which transfers gifts received to your 529 plan of your choice. Its a great way to get friends and family involved to contribute to your child's college fund. Since they only work with 529 plans, people will be confident that the funds will be used for college. Friends and relatives can gift by credit card or eCheck and set up monthly contributions as well. Have a good one Dads! Thu, 06 Jun 2013 17:14:59 -0500 http://www.dadlabs.com/forum/Expectant/Newborn-Dads/Babyproofing/Baby-Gates.html#9968 Here's a DIY video for a very clever baby gate, designed to fit a tricky stairwell. http://woodgears.ca/home/baby_gate.html I really like this guy's youtube channel - his woodworking is beyond my skill level, but he's got the mind of an engineer, and has a thoughtful approach to the way he solves these problems. His videos are well made and they give enough information that you could tackle the project, if you wanted to. Tue, 04 Jun 2013 18:03:32 -0500 http://www.dadlabs.com/forum/Lounge/Tech/Location-Based-Services-aka-Tracking.html#9958 Hey Guys !! I was searching this kind of forums only where location based services and tracking your child or dear ones can be done. I really want to ask to all guys, how often it is when your child or dear ones forget tasks assigned by you however they pass that very location everyday. Believe me, i have a really good solution for this. In order to know more about Trackzio, visit our facebook page: facebook.com/Trackzio Hoping for a positive reply and that too soon.. :) Thanks.. Tue, 28 May 2013 12:53:22 -0500 http://www.dadlabs.com/forum/Lounge/Wives/Partners/Trouble-having-sex-with-pregnant-Wife.html#9957 i've heard and read this is completely normal. it's just because of the newness, just don't rush into it and try some different kind of approach maybe? i also read that some men get "hormonal" like women and this might change your sex drive. i say best bet would be to try to crank up the romance as much as possible so you get lost in it. good luck Sun, 26 May 2013 05:13:25 -0500 http://www.dadlabs.com/forum/Lounge/Wives/Partners/wife-with-bad-case-of-morning-sickness.html#9956 my wife has been having horrible morning sickness (all day) and i was wondering if any of you guys had anything that worked for your significant other. we have tried saltines/ sprite, gatorade, bland foods, she can hardly keep water down. anyone have any home remedies or something like that? thanks Sun, 26 May 2013 05:09:40 -0500 http://www.dadlabs.com/forum/Welcome/Introduce-Yourself/hello-eveyone.html#9955 hello just wanted to introduce myself I'm 22, in the military, my wife is 7 week along right now. I'm living in currently idaho and i'm very exited about being a dad. I'm looking forward to friends and tips anyone has. Sat, 25 May 2013 15:57:19 -0500 http://www.dadlabs.com/forum/Expectant/Newborn-Dads/Dealing-With-Pregnant-Moms/Trouble-Having-Sex-With-Pregnant-Wife.html#9954 Listen guys, I need your help. I need some guys to answer this for me. I am having trouble having sex with my wife now that she is pregnant. I still love and adore her very much, very much. She is my world. That is why I am struggling with this. I am not unattracted to her, I think I'm just a little weirded out by the fact that she is pregnant. I don't know what the problem is. I have been struggling with it for a couple of months and it is putting small strain on our relationship. Can you guys please help me? Sat, 25 May 2013 15:36:42 -0500 http://www.dadlabs.com/forum/Lounge/Toys/Free-Educational-How-to-Train-Your-Dragon-Game.html#9952 When ones first post is a link, a sketchy one at that, it makes one suspect. Just letting you know. That being said, I will say this is a kinda fun game. Play is a bit slow, but the problem solving involved in completing each level is pretty cool. I downloaded it from iTunes app store. Sat, 25 May 2013 00:27:43 -0500 http://www.dadlabs.com/forum/Infant/Toddler-Dads/Infant-and-Toddler-Gear/Carseats-and-Bathtubs-2-questions-not-related-Although-I-guess-if-I-mounted-the-carseat-in-the-tub-my-second-issue-would-be-resolved.html#9948 Not sure about using a car seat on a tub, how do you clean the car seat after it's gotten wet? You'll just have to wedge your arms between their arms and chest so they don't slip when they bath. That's what we do with our one year old. If they're strong enough to stand the chances of them slipping are small just keep them at arms length. Tue, 21 May 2013 03:44:31 -0500 http://www.dadlabs.com/forum/Lounge/General-Discussion/Gender-Disappointment-–-to-say-the-least.html#9946 So I understand this from a different context. I already had a son, but my wife and I were working on having a baby. My wife is a girly-girl. She really, really, really, really, really wanted a girl. She grew up dreaming about tea parties and dress up and all that. Since I already had a son, I was hoping for a girl as well. For me it was more about hoping my wife got that experience. She was pretty sure that she was going to have a girl. Chinese calendar, all kinds of other reasons that pointed to girl (all BS, by the way). At the Ultrasound, my wife got pretty emotional when we saw the little pecker. When we got home, she cried. It took her some time, but she came to accept it. There was always a tinge of disappointment, though. Fast forward to February 19th. The moment she held him, it all changed. It wasn't about her childhood hopes. Immediately it became about what his would be. I firmly believe there is a difference between how we percieve the idea of "a baby" before we know the gender, "a boy/girl" after we know the gender but before birth, and your actual baby. Once your baby is born, it is a person. Your little person. It's not a vague idea or impression of what you think might be. It simply is. At that moment, everything changes. Regardless of what you thought you wanted, you will always love what you get. Mon, 20 May 2013 14:40:38 -0500 http://www.dadlabs.com/forum/Welcome/Introduce-Yourself/A-Fatherly-Re-Boot.html#9945 Hello, dads and dads-to-be, In the spirit of Superman, 21 Jump Street and Star Trek, I am in the Re-Boot phase of the Father franchise. I am the proud father of a very independent 20 year old son (Darian) and my wife and I just had my second son (Rhett, her first) 3 months ago. Starting over has been interesting and wonderful and scary and all that stuff. It is an interesting place to restart in mid-life, especially under different circumstances. I work in the medical industry and primarily work from home with a little bit of travel in there (less than 25%). So, I'm not quite a stay at home dad, but share a lot of the chores and get more time than most would working from an office. I am hoping to run in to other dads who are in a similar situation work-wise. My wife went back to work today, so this is going to get interesting. Luckily, her mother is staying in our guest house for a few months to help with the baby, but after 6 months, I need to figure out how to deal with actrually working vs. taking care of baby. I really don't want Rhett in day care until after 12 mos, but who knows. Anyway, hello to everyone ot there. Look forward to chatting. Jason Mon, 20 May 2013 14:26:38 -0500 http://www.dadlabs.com/forum/Lounge/General-Discussion/Savingforcollege-guide.html#9944 Hi there. My name is Steven. I am a representative of GradSave. My email address is pr@gradsave.com. Send me whatever questions you have. I will do my best to answer. Mon, 20 May 2013 14:10:26 -0500