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bobjr79
Bubble Boy
1 Year, 11 Months ago
OK so I'm not sure how many dads will be able to relate exactly but my son was born at 35 weeks at a low weight of 4.5lbs. I know this is toward the end of the "preemie" scale and their were a lot of babies earlier/worse off than he was. However his pediatrician has told us that we should not be in the general public or family gatherings until she gives us the green light. Healthy adult visitors are OK but no going to Target or birthday parties. That was hard but not so bad for the first few months. Now that he has had RSV she has extended this through May. I guess it's just getting difficult because I feel like now I've come off like a totally crazy first time parent. It's been so bad that some of his aunts and uncles(my immediate family) have not even seen him yet(and they live 15 min away) because I won't let them bring their kids. I'm just assuming this is the reason because I've said that we really want them to meet him but the kids will have to wait a little longer.

Has anyone else dealt with this type of situation before? I really don't wanna be the crazy first time parent and I think for the most part I'm not. I feel like my family just isn't "getting" the severity of his situation. At the same time I feel that if they don't like it then screw them... but that doesn't get you anywhere with family...

Rant over
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Daddy Clay
Re:Bubble Boy
1 Year, 11 Months ago
You don't come off as a particularly crazy, first-time parent (all of them are at least a *little* crazy, IMHO). You come off as someone that listens to their pediatrician. Which you should. And ignore me.

Because our preemie experience was different.

Ours was also a "big" preemie, born at 31 weeks and about 4.5 lbs. He was about that size when we brought him home from the NICU three weeks later. Our doc prescribed synagis to prevent RSV, but did not suggest that we needed to curtail visitation. I have clear memories of putting his tiny self in a sling and taking him to a faculty party within days of bringing him home.

Now it sounds like we should have neither brought him out *or* used a sling. Things evolve, I guess.
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concretin_nik
Re:Bubble Boy
1 Year, 11 Months ago
I think you're worrying about what they think too much. They're family, with kids, so I'm sure they understand. And if they are giving you grief about it, just ask them, what's more important, the baby's health, or their visit?

You are responsible for that child. You are following the advice of the doctor. The doc went to school for this, and is considered to be an expert on this sort of thing. So if Aunt Sue and Cousin Johnny are miffed at you, then just don't sit next to them at Thanksgiving.

@DaddyClay... first time parents are crazy huh? Sez the guy with 3 kids, wearin' crazy ponchos on the soccer sidelines and yellin' at grandpas at basketball games. Hi Pot, my name's Kettle.
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bobjr79
Re:Bubble Boy
1 Year, 11 Months ago
Thanks for the comments guys. I probably am worrying a little too much. I think I'm getting a little cabin fever. We've been cooped up at home since my wife went on bed rest back in Sept. It's gonna be a long 81 days till June 1st....
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Daddy Brad
Re:Bubble Boy
1 Year ago
I think you are doing the right thing. Although none of mine were preemies I was diligent about keeping our first away from "snot nosed kids" for the first few months as he had a few breathing issues. I remember his cousins coming over and coughing all over him, drove me nuts and i kicked them to the curve. although it seems a long way away but June will be here before you know and you can show him to the world! Stay Strong!
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DaddyRoger
Re: Bubble Boy
1 Year ago
Don't worry kids are pretty sturdy. I was a 4.5 preemie because I had a twin. I'm sure the standards were lot different back in those days but kids will thrive.

I know its hard to not have people visiting. I have a normal ~7lb 4 week old baby and my close family have not visited from out of town because their kids have the flu, cold etc. Its all for the good. You will be fine.
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bobjr79
Re: Bubble Boy
1 Year ago
I guess I should have gave an update on this. Parenting takes up most if not all free time. You all know how it goes sometimes.

We finally got out into the world last May after RSV season had subsided. It was weird. I'd say that I definitely felt like a parent before that but it felt even more real after we were able to go out and do normal things. The family stuff is still there I think. We took him to a family gathering last May and everyone finally got to meet him. It seemed really awkward and I still don't feel our decision was respected but it is what it is.
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