Sorry that my first post here is in panic mode, but I need some help.

My gf is almost two months pregnant. We love each other very much. We're both very vocal about telling each other that, and very good about calling each other every day (we don't live together and our jobs make it difficult to see each other every day). After the initial surprise of the pregnancy, we have started to talk about moving into a place better suited for children and what to do with the baby once we go back to work (I'm a teacher and she's a nanny/intern).

Anyway, onto the story at hand:

Because of our work schedules, we couldn't see each other all week. We made a plan to see each other Friday night after she finished working. She would spend the night at my place and then she would come with me to school the next day to ride with me and my club in our Homecoming parade, or she would spend the day having girl time with my mom. We were both very excited about this.

I pick her up on Friday night, and we're both very tired, but she's hungry. She's also very affectionate. We went to pick up some food. When we get back to the car, she's very quiet, but won't talk to me. When we get back to my apartment, she throws the food in the garbage, and says that she didn't feel the cooks in the restaurant were clean enough when preparing our food. I asked if she wanted to go back out for more food, eat what was in the apartment, or order in. She wanted to order in, but five minutes after looking at menus, she decided that she wanted to go to bed.

The next morning, she was crying because she was hungry. I offered to make her something at the apartment, or stop on the way to my parents, but she said that she wanted me to take her to the train so she could go home, and she would pick up food on her way. I tried to convince her otherwise, but she was adamant. When we got to the train, she looked miserable, but we said goodbye and our "love you"s.

I tried to call her several times during the day, but she wouldn't answer. When I finally got ahold of her, and asked if she wanted to get together, she accused me of not caring about her and said that she didn't want to see me anymore. I told her that I loved her and the baby and that I would do anything to make her happy, but she just said that she didn't want to see me. When I tried to call her back, she didn't answer, but sent a text telling me to not call her anymore and that she would never want her or the baby to move in with me.

I called a buddy of mine who is a parent, and he assured me that it's probably hormonal, and that his girlfriend said many horrible things to him during her pregnancy.

I'm not sure what to do. Should I call, email, or leave her her own space for right now? Since we don't live together, I can't wait for her to come home so we can talk. I love her and the baby so much, and I don't want to lose them, but I'm not sure what the right move is.

Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

Wow. Yea, this one has me stumped. I really don't know what to tell you. Hormones are harsh. I can only hope that she realizes that and comes around. You didn't mention your ages, but it seems like a very young persons situation. Doesn't really matter, but youth makes this type of thing a bit rougher I imagine.

I'll go with my same ole line, "Love's the only rule." Don't give her any reason to resent you, or really believe that you don't care. Stay true to your love for her and the baby. Be there as often as humanly possible for everything.

Who is her "support network?" Her family? Friends? Are they all cool with you? Perhaps reach out to one of them, let THEM know how you feel. You have to realize that her health is the most important thing for the next 9 months (actually longer, but let's focus on the pregnancy). Once the kid is here, it's a whole new ball game.

Hope it gets better sooner than later for ya MJ.

Now... WELCOME to DadLabs and CONGRATULATIONS! Thanks for sharing your difficult situation. It really does help other parents out there.

Any updates since your initial post? Have you opened up communication again yet?

I would work hard to get those lines open and keep working toward an understanding.

Tough situation.