Women today are locked in a noble struggle to overcome sexism and to reach equality in the workplace, juggling all the while their many obligations at home. Men just suck at laundry. And forget to pick up the birthday present for Jenny’s party. Where mom’s struggle to balance career and home is heroic, her failures a result of an unfair system and high aspirations, dad’s is a touch pathetic, his shortcomings a result of sloth or a carelessness, evidence of a lack of commitment.
It’s easy to unleash a torrent of complaints about today’s dads. Just ask a mom if she has a 50/50 marriage.
It’s a tough moment to be a dad. Expectations have changed radically, stereotypes are being defied, male identity reshaped. And it’s a good thing. A change that allows us to enjoy more the things that are really important in life. It is a rare voice that understands both the historical and societal origins of this change, and the impact that it has on the dads standing over changing tables across the country.
That’s why I think that everyone that reads this blog or visits DadLabs or any other dad site with any regularity should read “The Daddy Shift: How Stay-at-Home Dads, Breadwinning Moms, and Shared Parenting Are Transforming the American Family