I am a big proponent of using positive re-enforcement as the leading tool in my parenting behavior modification arsenal. Unfortunately, sometimes you just have to bring out the negative consequences when they just won’t listen to your words. In order for this tactic to work, it is key that you know what really makes your kids tick. Don’t assume that you know what your children really hold dear. Be patient in your discipline, choose the right tool and you will have little angels in no time.

My son is still struggling with the morning routine, ie brushing teeth, combing hair and getting dressed without tons of foot dragging and back talk. Yesterday was a particularly difficult morning and I was forced to begin taking fun things away as the situation worsened.

First to go was TV time, “ brush your teeth by the time I count to 5 or no TV today.” No movement.

Next computer time, “that shirt better be on your body by the time I get back or no computer time this afternoon.” When I return he’s still sporting pajamas.

Frustrated, I began to increase the severity, “I am going to feed the dog and if you are not ready to walk out the door by the time I get back no outside after-school playtime for a whole week. “ Nothing.

Now I am really grasping. Have I ratcheted up the punishment to quickly? What do I do now? I have backed myself into a corner and I may not get out. Next I’ll have to take away the prom or college.

Completely exasperated I blurt out “mister if you don’t get ready right this instant no desert!” Wild with fear he screams “Oh Please Daddy Not Desert.”

Pajamas fly, toothbrush whizzes and hair is combed instantly as he runs out the door toward the car for the trip to school.

Damn, that kid loves ice cream.