Recording artist Sara Hickman, a favorite of Dads and kids alike, makes an appearance in the Dadlabs studios. It's nice to have some talented people on camera for once. Sara talks with Daddy Clay about kids, being a mom, music and her parenting style. Also, her play her hilarious/painfully insightful single "Are We Ever Gonna Have Sex Again?" DadLabs Ep. 242 The Lounge.

Daddy Clay: Welcome back to the lounge. Today we have with us recording super mega star artist, blogger, writer and mom Sara Hickman. Sara?
Sara Hickman: Oh yes.
Daddy Clay: Well we did have-we’ve had moms in here. You are not the first mom. You’re not our first.
Sara Hickman: Am I the first mom with a beer?
Daddy Clay: Yes!
Sara Hickman: Yeah! This is my 3rd beer. Oh that is kind of good.
Daddy Clay: You are not going to boot? I thought you might.
Sara Hickman: What’s boot? Does that mean belch?
Daddy Clay: That’s yeah, no throw up.
Sara Hickman: Oh, no I haven’t had enough to do that but maybe. It’s kind of good, now.
Daddy Clay: So we’ve got you in here to talk about extensively music and parenthood and stuff. So one of the amazing things about your career is that you have managed to be successful both writing for grownups and for kids.
Sara Hickman: No matter where I have been people have said “Pare it down, do one thing.” And I like doing lots of things. I am a major multi-tasker.
Daddy Clay: I always find that when I am writing for kids like after a little while all the bad words build up and then I need to write something like for grownups. Has that happened to you like you write something for kids and you have to do something naughty?
Sara Hickman: I have to say that is very true because I came from doing adult music where I would sometimes get a little maybe risqué and say inappropriate words and talk about sexuality and things like that that are fun to talk about. And then I would go and work with children and yes you have to be appropriate. And I think I do a very good job of that and then yes there is this build up which either my husband gets or I go out on stage at an adult show and thing come out. And people who have only seen me at children shows who come to an adult show at night are a little shocked.
Daddy Clay: Can we, can you talk some about sexuality?
Sara Hickman: Sure I love sexuality.
Daddy Clay: Okay. No actually what we should do instead of that is maybe do some music. How about that?
Sara Hickman: Hey that’s a good segway you’re smart.
Daddy Clay: Let’s play a song. Could you play a song for us?
Sara Hickman: Yes. One, two, three, four. Life’s become a great big list of things to do and buy and fix. At night we pass out before 10. Are we ever going to have sex again? I looked for your dick today. Seeing as it had gone away. Well it aint been used since who knows when. Are we ever going to have sex again? Oh we used to be triple x rated but look at us now, we’re so domesticated. Don’t ya hate it? Hey what ever happened to babe and stud? Too much KFC and Bud. We’ll I’ll shout it out into the wind, oh are we ever going to have sex again? Everybody wet your whistle and blow. Just think ring of fire. You can move your bodies that’s alright. Uh huh. Nice. Come here baby and scratch my itch. Or I’ll show you one mean ass bitch. Because I am so tired of acting Zen. Are we ever going to have sex again? Yeah! Screw making love. It’s way too ambitious. Let’s get down on the rug after you finish the dishes. Not now hun the eggs are frying. But you get extra points for trying and maybe I can squeeze you in between the PTA and CNN. Are we ever going to have sex again? Don’t make me go to other internet men. Are we ever going to have sex again? This is making me feel happy and warm inside. And I have only had like 3 sips. Wow!
Daddy Clay: Excellent and now that was a hell of a song too. Which made me feel sort of warm inside in a way. But then also empty.
Sara Hickman: Did it make you feel like it’s true that you know win your own relationship. And I think a lot of dad have this question. Are we ever going to have sex again?
Daddy Clay: I know.
Sara Hickman: Parents?
Daddy Clay: I don’t-
Sara Hickman: I stumped you.
Daddy Clay: Crazy like rabbits you know after the kids were born you know-
Sara Hickman: Yeah there is that weird downtime where it is not good.
Daddy Clay: I think it’s something.
Sara Hickman: It’s ouchy it hurts a little bit. You have to wait to the healing and then you can have sex again. And then it is awesome. At least at our house.
Daddy Clay: Let’s talk about parenting a little bit. So I read that for a little while you were a parenting coach is that?
Sara Hickman: Yes I took the parenting classes and liked them so much that I went back and got certified to be an instructor. And it’s a group called Redirecting Children’s Behavior. But I think the key element of it is that it’s really teaching you. It’s really pulling the parents in and redirecting you. But we call it that to get the parents in there because everybody thinks it’s their kids fault right? You know.
Daddy Clay: Right.
Sara Hickman: Or their spouse’s fault. And you get in there and you really recognize that a family is a democracy. And a lot of parents do a lot of things old school like how their parents treated them. You know say you have to go to the store, and this is old school you would say “Okay let’s go.” And you would grab your kid and you put them in the seat and you buckle them in and you go. And the kid has no idea where they are going. They don’t know why they have just been strapped down. And it’s really disrespectful. I mean how would you like it if your wife came in and said “We’re going?” And took you out and roped you onto the top of the car and drive you somewhere? Well you might like that. So what we do is we prepare the child. We say “Okay tomorrow we are going to be going on a afterschool trip.” And then the next morning you say “Today is the day we are going on a school trip.” And then after school you say “In 30 minutes we are going to go on the school trip.” So you are constantly reminding them of what is coming up. They feel respected and when it is time to go, they willing go, even if it is to the store or to the bank or to go see the dentist or doctor. You’ve given them the opportunity to feel respected.
Daddy Clay: Do you want to run this company?