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Battle of the Stresses

DadLabs is back with all new episodes of The Lounge, the series where dads and moms answer some of the most important questions in parenting. This week we ask these parents: Are Dads as stressed as Moms? Find out who the winner is! Let us know your thoughts by commenting on this video or visiting us at DadLabs.com. DadLabs Ep. 655 is brought to you by BabyBjorn. Distributed by Tubemogul.
Clay: Hey there, welcome to a very special episode of The Lab, I'm Daddy Clay. We're coming to you today from Freddie's Place here in South Austin, Texas.
Brad: I'm Daddy Brad. Today's episode is brought to you by BabyBjorn. Oexo-Tek certified, safe for your baby, BabyBjorn. Now we're asking parents hard hitting questions and we're getting some really good answers.
Clay: Today's question is "Are dads as stressed as moms?"
Brad: Do you think that today dads are as stressed as moms?
Woman #1: No, but I say that they are much more involved than say my dad, other generations.
Man #1: Not at all, in any way whatsoever at this point. As an expecting dad but I can see where as a father that the stress level would increase.
Clay: Okay, what you need to learn how to do is pretend to be as stressed as the moms.
Nathan: I'm a stay at home dad so this is my job. It depends on what there are. Sure. Why not?
Woman #2: I think they are but in different ways.
Clay: Cheater. Do you think that in our culture today that dads are as stressed as moms?
Woman #3: Only when they're sober.
Woman #4: Here's what I think. I think dads and moms have different stresses. And I think the hard thing about being a working mom and wanting to have it all, even with a dad as a partner, is that I feel guilty if I'm not doing all the things that a stay at home mom could do for her family.
Man #2: We tend to take the eh, it's gonna be fine approach. Occasionally, some women might be conceivably a little bit more stressed out about certain situations where men may be more just laid back about them.
Brad: Cause we're dudes.
Man #2: Cause we're dudes. So what if there's junk all over him. Who cares? He's a kid.
Woman #5: His dad is really stressed about his growing spurts and the lack thereof. Because he wants him to play a lot of sports. And I'm more worried about him not taking risks so I think it's a different kind of stress.
Clay: So do you think overall your stress level is higher or lower?
Woman #5: I think moms are a little bit more stressed out. Because that's how we're wired.
Woman #6: In our household, I was more stressed about what method should we be using? Should we be doing attachment parenting? Should we be doing something else? But he was stressed about oh my God, I'm a parent. And I have to adjust. So there are different stresses. I think we're equally stressed.
Clay: So stress is equalizing?
Woman #6: Stress is equalizing it's in different ways. For fathers I think it's in learning how to be a good dad. Cause dads are more present than they used to be.
Woman #7: I think if you're a stay at home dad, yes you might be stressed. But I think most dads still get the better half of the gig definitely.
Clay: So dads just in general are less worried about all this stuff?
Woman #7: Absolutely.
Clay: And is that a good thing or a bad thing? Well I tell you there's one thing that's hard to be stressed about and that's being here at Freddie's Place on a beautiful afternoon.
Brad: Absolutely. You know thanks to BabyBjorn, our sponsor. Oexo-Tek certified, safe for you baby, BabyBjorn. Thanks to Mutsy for donating the stroller. You know, if you've got a comment about being stressed or not stressed, go to DadLabs.com and leave it for us.
Clay: And you can expect to hear back from us. So thanks for joining us here at Freddie's Place. We'll see you next time here in The Lab.

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krellpw
Stress is Equal But Different
written by krellpw, July 13, 2010
Have to agree with the mom that said, "parents stress equally, but over different things."

I know that in our house, I simply have a different set of personal neuroses than my wife has with regards to our kids so I worry about a significantly different list of issues than she does.

Fortunately, my wife and I ground each other pretty well and can offset each other.
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